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读心理学的一些笔记

看《社会心理学》里提到一个有意思的观点,说那些自尊自信的原动力来自对死亡的恐惧。是的,任何有机物不可避免地走向消失,但是投胎作为人与其他动物是不同的,至少自尊强的人是这样认为的,他们可以改变周遭,改变历史,升华到某种意义上的永垂不朽。在另一本书《明朝那些事儿》,当年明月笔下的封建士大夫是坚持信念,坚持以天下为己任的人,坚信自己的一生与众不同,坚信自己生来就有责任和义务,坚信无论经过多少黑暗与苦难,那传说了无数次,忽悠了无数回,却始终未见的太平盛世,终会来到。这个描述是不是也挺适用于舍身取义的革命者?如果按照前面心理学的假设,崇高的英雄形象似乎也就不怎么纯粹了,夹带着私心。

另一本书《压力管理》。//里面附有两张用于冥想的CD,本来想到网上下载的,现在倒是得来完全不费工夫。有一章说性格分类。TYPE—A,取悦型,无助型,坚毅型,生存型,刺激型。坚毅型有部分与TYPE—A交叉,但不像后者他们乐意和享受各种人生的挑战,这类人同时表现出强烈的责任性和控制感。觉得自己可能属于这一型可测试结果表明我大大高估自己拉,赫赫。另一个能对号入座的好像只能是刺激型了,这个类型里不单单包括感官刺激的层面(如攀岩,蹦极),还有对各种经历体验的渴望或是容易对一成不变的常规厌倦等等。不过,这也属于主观猜测,后三种由于比较新介绍的篇幅和资料十分有限。
无论是哪种性格的人都得面对这个压力重重的现实,积极的方式是提升自尊心,网上能搜索到很多相关教程,在这里贴一首诗,比起争取民权,我所碰到的挫折实在渺小。。。

Still I rise

You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I’ll rise.

Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
‘Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.

Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I’ll rise.

Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops.
Weakened by my soulful cries.

Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don’t you take it awful hard
‘Cause I laugh like I’ve got gold mines
Diggin’ in my own back yard.

You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I’ll rise.

Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I’ve got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?

Out of the huts of history’s shame
I rise
Up from a past that’s rooted in pain
I rise
I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise.


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